Is rebounding a thing in polyamory?
One of my best friends just went through a breakup, and even though he has mutual attraction with someone else, he wants to wait until he’s more over his ex before he starts this new relationship.
I have gone through periods of rebounding; I broke up with someone or otherwise had some sort of heartbreak, and then chased every sexy thing I could find. However, I don’t see how that is really a bad thing (in fact, one could potentially classify my boyfriend as one of my rebounds in a matter of speaking)..
Polyamorists believe that love shouldn’t be restricted. While breakups can definitely suck, and can sometimes indeed put you in a frame of mind where it is unlikely any relationship would work until you are a bit more emotionally recovered, these are not really “typical” breakups.
It is commonly said in the monogamous world that you shouldn’t date someone who is freshly out of a relationship. I really don’t understand this. While there is a possibility that it may be more likely that a person freshly out of a relationship is more likely to only want a casual relationship, and the other person wants something more serious; this is merely a bad match. In a good relationship, poly or otherwise, these expectations should be discussed, rather than discovered in a blowup that makes one or both parties forever avoid “rebound” relationships.
It is very nice to have someone to cuddle with after you go through a breakup, whether or not that person has been there for you all along.
What do you think? Is rebounding real? Should it be avoided?