I recently got a nice message on OkCupid, so even though I’m not really looking, I replied, looked through his profile, and updated my profile to clarify that I’m poly, into Dr. Who and board games, and a couple other new things. Before I know it, there are almost constant pop-ups showing up saying that people are visiting my profile, and my inbox (and therefore also my email inbox) is filling itself up faster than I can read through them! While there were a couple that just said, “You’re beautiful,” most actually were semi-thoughtful messages.
Why is it that I got such a constant stream of messages? If I was a 20% match with most of them, and they weren’t especially close to my location, how and why did they find me and message me? I suppose it is better to get lots of messages than none, but how is it that I get just so many messages?!
I’ve determined that I’m not really sure I want another semi serious relationship, but I’m potentially open to a “tertiary” type relationship. We’ll just see what happens I guess.